Getting through it

So I have definitely let this fall by the way-side.  Actually everything has.  I find so many times I am just treading water and getting done what needs to be done, particularly for others.  Hard to find that balance when you are a mum I guess.  The diet has stopped, the exercise - I keep making excuses and they are trivial and not even real. 
The blast from the past continues to pester and this is upsetting me as he is now all like 'wow do you know what you want now from a relationship - pity you didn't know back then when I was around'.  It makes me feel demeaned and useless.  I really need to harden up and tell him to go away for good.  I don't have his number in my phone so that I don't weaken and text - he only ever textes.  Next time there is a text I will ring straight back and tell him to fuck off. 
The child and I have had some fun and she has had some excitement with Induction day at her high school and uniform shopping.  She is so ready to move onto the next stage in her life.  Yes she can still be a 12 year old, but there are glimpses of the lovely young lady she is potentially turning into.  I say potentially because she still has the ability to NOT reach her next birthday based on behaviour!!
I continue to struggle with my folks away.  Just to be able to ring and say 'blah blah blah' good, bad or indifferent. 

So onward with the Warrior Woman attributes.....I definitely have No. 5 - there is an amazing group of people around me who are encouraging, supportive and friends.  I just need to remind myself of that (often).

5. Find your tribe. Your pack.  Your posse. Your band of sisters and brothers.  Surround yourself with people you trust, respect and enjoy.  You don’t have to always agree. You don’t even have to always get along.  But these are the faithful ones. Loyal. Steadfast. And true.  The ones who will be there for you.  With you. By your side.  The ones who have your back.  And will hold your hair back while you barf.

 

6. Follow your passions.  Therein lies your love affair with life. Be curious.  Channel your inner Curious George.  Do things that you love to do.  Be enthusiastic. Keen. Overflowing with zeal, zest and gusto.  Embrace new ideas and ways of doing the things you already know. Be creative.  Imaginative. Take the magical mystery tour.  Expand. Grow. Cultivate. Hone. Set your heart on fire.  Grab a handful.  Then another.  And another.  Gush about the things you love. Take risks. Embrace the failures on the way to your successes.  Learn and get on with it.  Dive in with your whole heart.

Back into it!!

Yeap - routine has not being playing a whole lot of role in my life at the moment and red wine has been playing too much role.  Scary how we can trick ourselves that it is all OK but it isn't!!  A few anniversaries over the last few weeks that have seen me outwardly smile and inwardly want to find that nice dark numb place.

But on with the Warrior Woman thoughts - I need to re-read these and then re-read them again!!

3. Get a kick out of life. Have fun. Find things that amuse and delight you - Every day. Don’t put it off for the weekend. For vacation. Or another time. Hoot and holler right now. Find your zippity doo dah. Make a joyful sound. Cause a ruckus. Bang on your drum all day. Laugh your guts out. Until you cry. Embrace happiness. Enjoy the people you’re with right this very second. 

4. Open your heart wide and let in the love. Go where your heart leads you. And don’t run from it’s softness. Let it be tender. Kind. Compassionate. Gentle. Extend your hand to another and grab on tight. Then let go. Their in lies your strength. Love again. Then again. And again. You don’t have to get it right. Or perfect. Just let love come naturally. Accept that sometimes it will hurt. Don’t let this frighten you. Don’t push it away. Or turn your back. Don’t give up on it. Most importantly, learn to recognize love when it comes your way. It doesn’t always come gift wrapped. Your power to love is your secret weapon.

Remiss

Well I have been very remiss in getting some posts done these last few weeks.  I have been meaning to keep going with the Warrior Woman chat, but life, emotions and energy levels have got in the way.
I haven't been overly consistent these last few weeks with routine, exercise, clean eating or alcohol, however in the last week things have been feeling good.  I think it is because some things are being put into place for the future.
I am off to Melbourne today and I will try to do some blogging while I am there.  I love Melbourne, just love it!

Slipping

This week has been hard.  Not quite sure what has happened.  Haven't been to the gym and definitely haven't been eating clean!!  

I recently saw this article on another blog (and I did forget to grab the name so sorry for pinching it), but it gives the top 10 ways to be a Warrior Woman.  I think that is what I am needing at the moment.  Thought that I might put a couple up each day and have a look at them.

1. Be real.  Authentically you.  Be the girl you are when you’re alone in your room.  The girl who sings into the hairbrush.  Or dances like a wild one.  The girl who jumps on the bed with crazy abandon.  And cries in the mirror so bad the mascara runs like black rivers down her cheeks.  A girl who curses at the ceiling and vows to never speak again. The one who drops to her knees and prays that someone or something is listening. Be the girl who not only hears the music but makes the music.  The girl who doesn't just march to the beat of her own drum but runs, leaps and flies. She’s the leader of the band.  Not the groupie.  Open the door to your room. Let the rest of the world see this strong Girl Warrior.

2. Stare down your fears.  Look them straight in the eyes.  Laugh at them.  Call their bluff.  Walk right through them.  Don’t go around.  Don’t avoid.  Face them head-on. Take a deep breath.  Or a hundred  breaths.  Make your move.  And keep moving.  Shaky legs, a racing heart, lump in the throat or dry mouth are just the silly antics of fear.  Not real.  Feel the fear and do it anyway.  Find your brave heart and take it into battle. Give yourself a hug. Then go out and kick some ass.

So who do you think of when you think of a Warrior Woman?  A mythical goddess, Joan of Arc, The Sufragrettes or Wonder Woman?  These days the girls could be even looking at Katniss Everdeen for their inspiration of a Warrior Woman.  For me it has to be Sarah Connor from the first Terminator movies!!

Monday

Well life goes on......
I have been reminded that I have amazing friends.  One has put up her hand and gone 'oi - what's all this about being depressed'  It was wonderful to chat and be heard.  It is hard to reach out, hard to admit and even harder to really talk.  However with friends like I have, I am blessed to be able to do all three (when I don't let my pride get in the way).
Well the blast from the past did contact to say 'how bout it?' and he really did mean 'how bout it?'  He was merely looking for a 'friend with benefits' and as much as I have been that sort of person in the past with some people in my life (think pre-child dalliances), I wasn't prepared to allow myself to be treated that way.  mmm is that a sniff of self-esteem that I am feeling?
So what am I doing at the moment.  Well I have just joined the 12wbt challenge again.  This was something that I started in 2011 and had to stop once I developed Ross River virus.  It is a great challenge and I have seen some friends lose weight and gain great fitness from it.

It is Warm Up at the moment and then Pre-Season begins on 22nd Oct.  I have time to get rid of the unwanted foods in the fridge and pantry (oh - I am not supposed to eat them?)

Feeling the burn

The gym is going really well!  Stupidly I had some wine on Sunday night and didn't turn up on Monday - felt lousy all day. 
I did a mountain of squats yesterday and felt it this monring when I got up - happily!  It is a good pain and it means that I have worked out.  I am definitley feeling it in my clothes and the scales are saying a few kilos down. 

Mood is also heaps better.  The man from the past tried to contact again (via text).  I said that I wasn't prepared to have conversations over sms and so he suggested Skype.  I thought he meant video - no still typing.  How can you get emotion out that way.  Anyway I informed him (after he said to contact him when I was free and we would go out) that I was not prepared to be the decision maker and if he wanted to go out he would have to risk the rejection (for whatever reason) by (verbally) asking.  Don't think he liked that, but hey - I deserve to be asked, not 'inform when I am free'.
Off to move these glutes and get some feeling back in them.
Phone front - have a new phone, paying out old phone, I love iTunes!!  I had 'backed up' a few months ago unknowingly - not a lot missing!!  Happy!!  I am liking Siri - getting used to using her!!

What was that all about??

Well had coffee and nothing really.  He looked exactly the same, if he had been trying to impress me he didn't try very hard.  I can't see that going anywhere really!  So not really sure what exactly it was all about.
On a lighter note - well not really - I have lost my iPhone.  Bloody angry about that!!  Was with me one minute and not the next.  Don't know if I dropped it, if it was picked up by someone.  I have tried to ring it but it is going to voicemail immediately which is odd.  Have spoken to my carrier and they have stopped the number and rang my insurance company and they will cover it (phew).  But it has everything in there!!!  Uggh, why didn't I start using iCloud when I was going to????